“The only time I have doubt is when I find an excuse to become stressed, this often involves the wife and I have even asked the question "do you want me to start smoking again?" before listening to just how stupid that sounds!
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That does not sound ^stupid^ at all, in fact one of the main reasons people often resist stopping the habit is because they have a fear that they will change, or not be there usual effervescent self.. (as I'm sure Ray appreciates with his roller coaster of a time)
*quite often
other people do not want the ^smoker^ to stop either as it may then highlight their weaknesses
**Weaknesses do not exist, only choices, but many clients often refer to weakness as being how they may be looked upon if they cannot also ^change^
smoking, weight loss, nail biting, cussing etc so they can often fan the flames in an attempt to sabotage the efforts of a partner or loved one - (You'd be amazed at some of the stories I could tell you)
The reality is you can only make the decision yourself and for yourself, some people tough it out and 'find a way' to not do whatever it is, sometimes this works sometimes it does not.
For anyone wanting to stop smoking I'd really consider hiring a reputable licensed stop smoking specialist (not just a hypnotist) Hypnosis still has the highest rate of success when it comes to stopping smoking but more importantly the extra training and experience of smoking and all of it's habits, rituals and effects can really make the transition concrete - without having to replace the reactive response with something else (Like chewing gum - you know who you are!
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) along with and other secondary challenges or tasks that may occur from time to time - "This
can be as easy as breathing in and out" - Paul Green
Are you listening to me!? - YouTube